I learned about these things from studying shame.

The thing to understand about shame is it's not guilt.

And it's a real shame. Now why has this come about?

Cannot have that conversation without shame, because you cannot talk about race without talking about privilege.

And when people start talking about privilege, they get paralyzed by shame.

Adam Smith, 200 years ago, spoke about our desire for a life without shame.

The other thing you need to know about shame is it's absolutely organized by gender.

So, I could tell you a lot about shame, but I'd have to borrow everyone else's time.

Shame, for women, is this web of unobtainable, conflicting, competing expectations about who we're supposed to be.

And I thought, thank God, because shame is this horrible topic, no one wants to talk about it.

They didn't talk about vulnerability being comfortable, nor did they really talk about it being excruciating as I had heard it earlier in the shame interviewing.

Sweden s Shame

whose end is destruction, whose god is the belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who think about earthly things.

whose end is destruction, whose god is the belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who think about earthly things.

That's a shame.

What a shame!

Shame on you!

That's a shame.

Shame on you.

What a shame.

So when I became Vulnerability TED, like an action figure like Ninja Barbie, but I'm Vulnerability TED I thought, I'm going to leave that shame stuff behind, because I spent six years studying shame before I really started writing and talking about vulnerability.

Shame is that thing.

Shame on you guys.

Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD I have lifted up mine hand, Surely the heathen that are about you, they shall bear their shame.

Therefore thus saith the Lord GOD I have lifted up mine hand, Surely the heathen that are about you, they shall bear their shame.

Ma, have you no shame?

Brené Brown Listening to shame

Shame is I am bad.

Eastern Europe s Crisis of Shame

His face reddened with shame.

Covered with the blackness (of shame)

Covered with the blackness (of shame)

And then I was overwhelmed with shame.

It is in itself a great shame.

And it turned out to be shame.

Shame I'm sorry. I am a mistake.

Shame is an epidemic in our culture.

Fear God and do not shame me.

Fear God and do not shame me.

But fear Allah, and shame me not.

But fear Allah, and shame me not.

The second thing, in addition to really finally understanding the relationship between vulnerability and courage, the second thing I learned is this We have to talk about shame.

The market s verdict is likely to be uncompromising. As Oscar Wilde said Fool me once, shame on you fool me twice, shame on me.

What do you do? I study shame. Oh.

There's a huge difference between shame and guilt.